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Revenge Porn

Posted on Fri, 14 July, 2017

I’ve just heard a new phrase – revenge porn. How in the world is this a thing?

Seriously, how have we become that fucked up as a species that there is a thing as revenge porn?

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Before

I’m also upset because I know this as a result of a Kardashian story, and I try actively to avoid knowing anything about them. Coming into this story at the end, as I have, I gather that poor Rob has acted out against his baby mama because he feels abandoned. AS the psychological detective that I am, I also gather that he felt this way from his parent’s divorce and subsequent mother’s materialistic focus and narcissism. That woman can’t handle life without someone’s attention on her.

It is such a cliché when we therapists ask about a client’s family of origin, but it’s so true – it all goes back to that. Especially the mother. Poor mothers get a bad rap because we are the first attachment and if that’s not good, you’re screwed. I think mama Kardashian had her attention focused on herself, her business (which is herself), keeping her second husband in pants and very little left for her son.

Rob has had the least of the spotlight and that tells me he is foreign object to her – she doesn’t know what to do with him. The youngest two girls with Bruce/Caitlyn went into the spotlight because there was approval waiting there from mama. But Rob has seemingly been consistently quiet, until the acting out.

He started putting on weight, a signal of something significant happening for him, with lots more time in front of a camera, something out of the ordinary for him and wild fluctuations in mood: all signs that he is unstable.

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Now

So most people act out in some way – a mom drinks a little too much to cope with stress of parenting. A man has a relationship outside his marriage to separate his expected sexuality from his subversive kinkier side. People are always doing drugs when they’re not supposed to. My point is that we as humans are not perfect and do stupid stuff to cope with things that are stressful, traumatic and unwanted. The Kardashians do this in front of the whole world.

I roll my eyes over this family constantly because of their behavior and it’s poor example. They are the train wreck many people cannot tear themselves away from and then end up copying to feel relevant. Poor Rob seems to feel unimportant now and is acting out to return things to their former homeostasis. I’m pretty sure that revenge porn is going to seal the coffin on that idea.

 

Jodi Klugman-Rabb is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Marin and Napa Counties. She specializes in connecting with clients on a humorous and practical level, helpful when specializing in ADHD, trauma and anger/communication skills. She uses EMDR to treat traumas and fears of all types. She is the mom of two funny and awesome kids. Connect with Jodi on her website www.jkrabb.com or https://www.facebook.com/JKRabbMFT/

 

 

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